I have so much love in my heart! So much that sometimes I think my heart will burst out of my chest.
I have been unlucky in some of the people who have come into my life. But equal, if not greater than, I have had some amazing people come into my life!
I don’t care if they will ever read this or see the words I write about them, but people should know their names. In no order of importance I will begin to write about them.
Sam was a girl that I met in the seventh grade. I was so incredibly shy, but the day she walked into class and was looking for somewhere to sit, I forgot myself and invited her to sit next to me. This would start a friendship that would continue for twenty six years now.
I was forced to move away which is the life every military brat understands. That day I had to say goodbye because we were getting in the car and heading out on our next big adventure broke my heart into pieces. I put on a brave face and said my goodbyes. But on my two mile walk home I cried the whole way. Sure that I’d forever lost this gift of friendship.
Somehow over the years we always found a way back to each other! I am so grateful for this gift. She is such a rare gem of a person. She is strong and independent. She has been both a mother and a father to her son who is an incredible human being!! This isn’t an easy thing to do! But she has done it with grace.
She is funny and goofy. She is gorgeous and self deprecating. She is wildly smart and has managed to go after her dreams!! She’s made something of herself and she’s continued to push herself. I will forever be in awe of her and thankful to be her friend. Even on the fringes.
Pete and Heidi are this amazing combo of a couple! It’s not that they don’t stand tall and strong on their own, because they do.
Pete came into my life at a time when I was ready to turn and run from everything I’d worked so hard to achieve. I couldn’t breathe. I felt smothered and was sure there wasn’t a light to be found. Then there he was, my own personal Batman, my hero!
He brought in the sun. He brought in fresh air. He brought in hope that everything I’d worked so hard on and for was for purpose. He got me. He gets me. He knows how to handle me and to talk to me in a way that yields the best results. This isn’t easy to do.
He is a salt of the Earth kind of a man. He doesn’t mince words and I value that so much. He has a great sense of humor, even if dry and misunderstood by most. He has the biggest heart and loves so much. When you are part of his world, part of his family, you are gifted. I get to know that honor and I am humbled.
He was the first person I reached out to when my world began falling apart. With tear stained cheeks I messaged him, looking for that brutal honesty I’d come to know and appreciate. He responded with love and a desire to see me whole again. My personal Batman coming to my rescue yet again. He offered me his home and his undying love. I am forever grateful for this man!!!!
Heidi I had met once when she visited the store with Frankie. It was a nice interaction, but it wasn’t much more than “hi. Nice to meet you.”
To be honest I was a bit intimidated. Not an easy thing to do really. But she was the woman who had gained the love of Pete, which meant to me that she must be a goddess, lol. I know that seems extreme. But have you ever known someone who was so awesome, that you thought to yourself- for them to love and be devoted to this person they have to be the most amazing human being?!
We spoke again once when I was pregnant. Pete was one of my two people that I got to bring into our little secret. He, of course, told Heidi and she just had to call to tell me how excited she was. I am positive that Pete had shared with her my struggles. Their joy for me was so amazing to feel.
Their sorrow for my loss, when I had to tell Pete I couldn’t share an ultrasound picture with them because we’d lost the baby, was overwhelming. To know that their hearts ached for me was almost too much to bear. I felt guilty for bringing them into my secret. Because their joy, like mine, ended in pain.
Then when my world came crumbling down, Heidi was there with an offer. A chance to take a promotion. Move to another town, in another state. Take a chance at starting over and see where it takes me. Not everything I expected, from our two weeks almost of phone calls when she was recruiting me, has come to be what I thought it would be.
I got the honor of living with them. I got the honor of becoming part of their family! I got the honor of gaining another soul sister!! I have a forever family and I am forever in her debt for taking a chance on me! All she had to go on was a quick hello and stories she may have heard from Pete. All of this means I gained a new best friend!
Bradi! What can I say about Bradi?! There isn’t enough I can say. She was someone I saw at work. Out on the fringes. I’m much to shy to strike up conversations with people I don’t know. But she was friends with and loved by those I loved.
It was when she became the personnel manager that we really got to know one another. I fell in love with her sarcastic nature right away!!
She is such a genuine soul. She loves with all of her heart and it gushes forth. She doesn’t have the first clue that she is pure love! She doesn’t realize that she is incredibly strong! She doesn’t realize that everyone who is in her universe is better for it!
She is a wonderful and caring mother. She does all of the right things to take care of her boy. He is a gift and she knows it. She doesn’t take that for granted. She works hard to be the kind of person her son can be proud of and she achieves that daily. Even though she doesn’t think so.
Elizabeth “Bitty” my sister. My one and only sister of flesh and blood. I can’t say that we grew up the best of friends, but we never hated each other. I was always so jealous of her to be honest.
She came in and took my specialness away. There was another girl in my family. Someone to compare me to. Which meant my shine deminshed. That’s wasn’t her fault and I’d hope that my feelings of inadequacy didn’t weigh on her.
I was always a bigger girl in the sense that I was tall and broad. Strong like bull and always ready for a fight. I wasn’t pretty the way she is pretty. I wasn’t delicate and feminine.
But let me tell you this girl has a fierceness! She is one of the strongest people I know! When she loves you she protects you with everything she has. She tolerates more than she should for the love of family.
She’s a firecracker and I can’t even begin to tell you how fortunate my family, myself and the world is for having her in it! She’s smart and can be hilarious. She’s down to earth and never ever treats people like they are less than she is.
She’s an incredible mama and makes me hope that one day I can be like her. She has given the world four incredible children. More special to me is that she has given me four incredible children!!! She has allowed me a place in their lives that comes as close to children of my own as I can hope for.
I get to be their Maunt Mary and in some small and special way, kind of like their second mama. Each one of them and I have a special and unique bond. I ache for them daily. To feel their hugs and kisses. To hear their voices scream my name with excitement when they see me! The joy this gives me is because she has allowed me to be there.
My sister was the second person I let in on our little secret. It was with excitement that she bought me the first onesie that my baby would wear. The first gift I would receive for my own baby. I cherished that gift and recently I was able to give it to my best friend! It carries with it so much happiness and fulfillment of a dream.
It was in my sister’s lap that I cried when I lost my baby. Not necessarily literally, because it was still a secret. My baby was a secret from the world. But she knew, my beautiful sister knew and she allowed me to wail in pain at the loss.
Kayla is the sweetness of this life. She is pure love and joy. She is human like anyone else, but she does a commendable job of being a truly good person.
She looks out for everyone else’s hearts more than her own. She is insightful and yet so humble. She took me into her embrace and I’m beyond grateful for it. It’s such a warm embrace and gives me strength.
She will never think of burdening you, but she will take on all of your woes and make them her own. If you have a cross to bear and it seems too heavy, Kayla will pick it up with you! She is a true gift to this world and all people who are able to be in her atmosphere.
Jay is this warm, flawed soul. He isn’t a product of a fun and happy childhood. We share this in common, although mine was not nearly to the same degree.
We have formed a bond that is strong. It is a mutual love and respect. It is an understanding that pure and platonic love is possible.
He is always reaching out and trying so hard to make me feel better about myself. Always full of encouragement and sometimes a much deserved kick in the ass.
He is a true soul and he never stands by and accepts things that are wrong. He has been an anchor for me. A piece of home. I love him for it. His friendship is a gift that I happily accept.
Eric is so much a part of my heart. He came into my world, or me into his, at just the right time. He was a piece of friendship that I was missing. He was someone I could turn to with my troubles. At the time unbiased and give me honest advice.
He has become family to me and I know I’ll love him for all my life. Sometimes his advice and his words sting. I won’t lie, but they are truths I need to hear. He puts a mirror in front of me and I have to take the reflection. I was able to meet his mom on my trip home this summer and I almost hugged her so tight, lol. Because she brought this beautiful, amazing and wonderfully flawed man into the world.
My girl, my light, my soul sister SharaLin is the truest person I know. She is a care giver in the truest sense of the word. She gives those around her an undying and true love. She is never even slightly fake. This is a rare and true gift!
She has given me so much hope in myself, in this world, in what is possible. She takes more care in others than she does herself. She tells me I’m crazy. She tells me I’m silly. And I can’t help but laugh.
She is such a genuine soul and can’t see why she would be so loved. It’s part of her beauty. To not see herself as the angel that she is. She puts others before herself and when you try to return the love she withdraws. Uneasy about accepting that love.
If you ever have the chance to know and love SharaLin you will be forever altered by it. You, like me, will be always grateful that such a sweet and wonderful, honest and genuine person loves you. That if you have nothing else in this world you have her. And that is enough.
Tammy. Sweet Tammy. I can’t even begin to think of how strong this woman is! People tell me I’m strong and yet I pale in comparison to this beautiful woman!
Tammy has had so many obstacles in her life. So many heavy crosses to bear. So much heart break. Yet she is full of nothing but love and goodness. How is that even possible?! She is an amazing person!
I look up to her and wonder if I can ever come close to the amazingness that she is. When my heart was shattered into pieces and I couldn’t breathe. I couldn’t eat and I couldn’t sleep. There was Tammy, helping me remember to inhale and exhale. She was there to pet my head so to speak. To allow me calm and peace so that I might close my eyes and find some peace. She and her wonderful wife, Kim, made me food to eat a number of times. Encouraging me to nourish myself so I could be strong again.
She tells me I’m likable. She tells me that I’m lovable. She tells me I’m beautiful and special. She messages me almost every day. Just a quick note to tell me she loves me and is thinking of me. She gives me so much love to hold on to. She is my touchstone and I can’t imagine my life without her.
In a world and a time in my life when I feel sad. I feel alone. I feel like I can’t find a friend where I am. I can’t seem to find peace in my heart and in my head. I can find love. Overwhelming love! Love flowing through me. Flowing to me and from me.
Maybe I will find love here in Minnesota. Not the romantic kind, because that’s not in the cards and it’s not important. But the love and friendship of those around me. I’m trying hard to be open to it, but it’s tough. It’s tough for me to find the balance. Not come on too strong, but not be a shadow of myself. With the love and support of these people I write about, I am sure I’ll be okay. I’m sure I will find a place of peace here. I look forward to going home and again be in the embrace of those who love me purely. Those I love with a pureness all my own.
When I come to love you, I’ll love you forever. No matter what. No matter what you do to me. No matter what you say to me. No amount of abuse or negativity will change that. It gives you an opening to violate my love, but never deminsh it. I love you now! I love you for always❤️❤️ My cup runneth over! Always and forever!